Nov 19 2010

4th Trimester …complete.

I can’t believe it.  My baby girl hit the 3-month mark a couple days ago.  It is the end of our “4th trimester”…sigh  {pause}  WAAA!

It’s a strange time warp that happens when you become a mama.

On the one hand, I can’t believe 3 months has already flown by.

On the other hand, it feels like Rya has been a part of my life forever.  And I really, TRULY have a hard time remembering what life was like before her.

What is a “4th trimester,” you ask? Beats me – I just read about it in a book, which said the first 3 months is like a 4th trimester where you should just hold, feed and love your babies – and not to worry about anything else.

It sounded good to me.

Of course, now that this 4th trimester is over, I’m not sure if I’m supposed to start Rya on a regimented schedule of sensory games and sleep training.

I suppose I might want to start with getting her out of her co-sleeper, which she has quickly outgrown.  I just don’t feel ready to move her out of my bed yet.

I know…it’s not about me, it’s about her.  But I’m pretty sure I heard her say she wasn’t ready to move out of my bed yet either! hehe

Now, my iPhone coverage of Rya’s life has become a bit of a joke between my mom & I,  so to commemorate this transition out of our ’4th trimester’ I thought I would include a little iPhone montage for her (warning…this really is just blurry iPhone photos of Rya…it’s one of those things I would only subject family to watching…like hours of vacation photos…so if you do choose to watch it, considered yourself forewarned!)

But I’ll leave this post with a question….what kind of sleep arrangement did YOU have when your peanut was 3 months old?

8 comments

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Kyla Cook - November 19, 2010 - 1:30 pm

Just leave her in with you. Aliyah is two and a half and we are just now moving her to her own room. Co-sleeping is a wonderful comforting thing.

Carrie Woodrow - November 19, 2010 - 2:47 pm

I agree with Kyla. We have shared our bed with all three boys. Noah left when we was 3, Caleb when he was 2 (to sleep with Noah) and Adam is still with us at 2.5. Our plan is to move him in with his big brothers. There is just nothing sweeter than cuddling up to a baby every night and it makes breastfeeding (which is still happening here) much easier!

Joanne - November 19, 2010 - 4:57 pm

Do you what your heart says. I agree with Kyla. They won’t be sleeping with you when they are 16 and my experience by 3 either. Besides all the other peoples advise really doesn’t mean anything when they aren’t living with you. If it feels right with you and your husband. You are getting enough sleep and not fighting with each other then it is right!!!

Danielle H. - November 19, 2010 - 6:34 pm

Definitely do what works best for the both of you! With N. we co-slept for the first nine months in order to get any and all the sleep we could (he was very colicky).
With E. we learned very quickly (within the first month) that she prefers her own sleeping space. The very first time we gave that to her was the first she slept through the night!

Loopy mama - November 21, 2010 - 6:04 pm

Thanks ladies – my heart says ‘keep her close!’ And she sleeps through the night in our bed – but for our early morning feed, it’s rather handy to just be lying in bed, where we both just drift back off to sleep! The crib is on stand-by if need be, but for the time being, it’s being used for blanket storage :)

Shannon K - November 22, 2010 - 12:46 am

Hey you! Don’t you worry you do what you want. With my first it was in her crib in the other room every night and started at about 3 months to put her in after her dinner really so after her evening alert time. She went “to bed” at 6:30 or 7:00 pm and was up every 4 hours for a routine feeding change and back to her crib.

However with my second….a total different story! He wanted me all the time feeding every 2 hours until 4 months so he didn’t really leave my bedside (in a good sized bassonette) until 4 1/2 to 5 months.

She will let you know what she needs and you just have to be ready to hear her.

Good luck to you “Loopymama” you will be a great mom! No doubt!

Heather - November 23, 2010 - 2:24 am

I agree with everyone – my oldest is 14 yrs, my youngest 10 months and they all slept with us. Our precious 10 month old still does, and will until we are ready for it to end. Take it from one who knows, it seems like a “fleeting” moment before they barely want to spend any time with you. Just enjoy it while you can and know that whatever you decide, she will grow up strong and confident – mine did.

Marian - November 30, 2010 - 2:20 am

I agree with the remarks that she will tell you what she needs. In terms of development and attachment the most important is to teach her that you are there for her and will meet her needs. Our little peanut sleeps pretty much anywhere for naps which I love – gives me more freedom. Up to age 18 months he slept in his crib at night but then decided he needed me so started sleeping with me. Sleep is not worth fretting over. Loosing sleep worrying about sleep – crazy business! Enjoy and develop the strongest attachment possible!

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